Polyglot writer, artist, critical, honest, kind, clumsy, serious, silly, sensitive, gentle

Inspiracionales son el mar que al aprofundizar la mirada, abriéndose el alma se percibe como océano que es y el sol que al encontrar el buen angulo da un calor agradable y alumbra nuestro planeta en vez de quemar la piel o cegar los ojos. Bonito y más que bonito valioso es sonreír a los demás seres y abrirles el corazón a todos, hasta a los que están equivocados. Pues los equivocados están perdidos, dolidos, frustrados... aquellos que caminan en el sol, la naturaleza, el mar y no lo agradecen. Aquellos que no saben abrir su corazón, aquellos que no ven lo bonito y sencillo de otros seres y de la vida, a los que la ignorancia ha envuelto en un infinito laberinto de oscuridad. Caminan por el mundo menospreciando y ignoran que a los que menosprecian son a ellos mismos, humillan sus almas cada día.  Vivid respirando profundamente, abrid vuestro corazón y brazos, mirad el alrededor con cada detalle único y acordaros de que la tierra entera está llena de misterios por descubrir, de tes...

Self care is a way of accepting one's self, a way of recognising the fact that one is valuable and that life can sometimes be brutal and incomprehensible. It's the opposite of the shame. Shame cannot survive if we have self-care towards ourselves. It's about a desire to relieve one's own suffering and it's therefore a motivating power for growth and change.  Even though most of us are worried about being nice to other people, we tend to be more harsh and critical towards ourselves. We simply have to realise that we are not perfect and  recognise our mistakes and learn from them, to have a friendly relationship with our weaknesses and wrongs, and take the initiative to make necessary changes in our life to feel better. When one doesn't blame themself for failing, one recognises more easily their mistakes and dares to take new challenges. This protects from excessive thinking, anger and isolation and gives a higher happiness degree, optimism and positive feeli...

In a society that is based on performance, defects and mistakes are seen as negative things. But at the same time it's difficult imagining a life without mistakes and failures. Failures themself carry us to learning and making less mistakes next time or in the future. This way, a person has more knowledge about what they have to do differently. People that achieved success have very often a story with many attempts and fails. Making mistakes is human.  REFLECTION: What effect do you think would have on your life, being less scared to make mistakes? Is there something that you would have dared to do, or would have done differently? Maybe you can try to make a mistake on purpose and see what consequences that has? What effect does observing other people's mistakes have on you? Does this make you think differently about them? Keeping things secret, keeping quiet and judging one's self create the feeling of shame.

Being vulnerable makes us feel things like fear and lack of security but also happiness and love. We can't cover the bad feelings without covering the good feelings too.  When specific feelings are avoided, the way to loneliness and depression is short. For some people pessimism becomes a lifestyle because it feels easier living in a deception instead of a rejection. One feels it's very risked having hope in something and expectations when one is scared to be hurt. Thoughts like I dont want to ask if I can go, it will for sure be very boring anyway  is a way of surviving. In reality, one could really want to go but the fear of hearing a no  prevents them from doing so/trying so. 

Perfectionism could be due to compensing the painful feeling of not being good enough, giving way more and appearing successfull. One lets the others define who one is depending on if they confirm or not. This results in a false face with false relationships. Which gives an empty inside feeling. It's a way of survival and protection managing one's value from exterior factors because of fear of not being accepted or good enough. 

Vulnerability  An individualist society that is based in performance, where everyone is responsible for their own succes tells us that if we're not good enough, unique and perfect, we failed. In a country like Norway, everything is available to have success and if someone doesn't do their best or use their potential to the maximum, then they are to blame. This is why one falls so deeply and their failing has to be lived alone or hidden. The result can be self contempt. One becomes isolated, feels different and lonely. That's why it's believed that when people, espcially young people have persistent agitations, exhaustion and depressive moods, they are having normal reactions to abnormal requirements. The difference between self-confidence & self esteem Self confidence is about who you are, what you are and what you achieved meanwhile self esteem is about who you are indepentently of exterior factors.  Self-esteem is a lasting vision of one's self worth, ...